The death of your child may be one of the most painful experiences you have. You will mourn the loss of your child, as well as the hopes and dreams that you had for them. You may experience many different emotions that might affect the way you normally react or behave to everyday situations.
Relatives are also grieving the loss of your child. Grandparents are not only grieving the loss of their grandchild but may also experience the grief of your loss. Your parents or other relatives may feel helpless and may not know how to provide comfort and support. You may find that these thoughtful individuals will offer support that may not be what you need at that time. Remember that everyone grieves differently, recognize these differences, and find ways to support and heal together.
The following is a list of some feelings and behaviors that are a normal part of grieving:
Grief Reactions
- Disbelief and shock
- Anger, depression, and/or sadness
- Feeling withdrawn or restless
- A sense of personal responsibility or guilt
- Lack of concentration
- Changes in sleep patterns
- Changes in eating habits or weight
- Emotional outbursts and impatience
- Difficulty in personal relationships
- Changes in work performance
How to Help Yourself
- Eat well and get plenty of rest
- Share your thoughts and feelings with family and friends
- Delay big decisions to a later time
- Pamper yourself
- Exercise, take long walks, enjoy nature
If grief reactions last for a long period of time, they may begin to interfere with your daily life. If you feel that the support of your family and friends is not enough you may want to seek professional help. There are professionals who deal specifically with issues of grief and loss that you can contact. Such services are available at community agencies, private counseling offices or faith-based communities. Attached is a list of some available resources.
Social Workers at Children's Hospital Los Angeles can be reached at (323) 361-2485. After 5:00 P.M., contact the hospital operator at (323) 660-2450 to page the Clinical Social Worker on duty.
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